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We Need to Talk about Rhi

7 January, 2017 8 comments

This blog took a real backseat this year, and in September I stopped altogether. But then this week I saw a click-bait/SEO opportunity with the ‘snow in Malta‘ hype and I started to get a feeling. A bloggy feeling. The Internet has a love/hate relationship with self indulgent ‘year in review’ posts but personal posts have always been my most popular and there’s nothing I like talking about more than myself, so here goes…


Off To A Bad Start

In January I discovered we have 24 hour GP services in Malta, and had the chance to compare public and private healthcare in Malta when I spent most of the month in and out of hospital and doctors offices; being kept in, monitored and going through a multitude of basic and invasive tests. Stress, a virus and a chronic condition all combined in January to pretty much break me but the public and private healthcare professionals all did an amazing job of looking after me and, one year on, I am great.

Then Seemed to get Even Worse

I moved to Malta in 2010 with my boyfriend and, whilst not being the most optimistic or romantic of people, I had always just kind of assumed that it would be forever. But then in February 2016, after six years together, came the big breakup (which I couldn’t bring myself to write about until May). If you’ve been reading my blog for a while you’ll know that I was painfully shy and suffering with anxiety and multiple neuroses, but something happened the day that he moved out. I cried a bit (well, a lot) and I carried on crying for about a week, maybe two. But very soon (much sooner than you’d imagine after six years together) I woke up and not only felt OK again but felt better. Better than I had ever felt. I felt confident, I felt excited, I felt eager.


But Ended Up Being The Best Year Ever

Then the rest of this year was spent exploring my new limits, which seemed to have basically fallen away. Not only was I no longer terrified of meeting new people; I enjoyed it. I went out and made it happen. I spent more time with the friends I’d already made and found myself accepting invites to events where I knew I’d know next to no one, just to meet new people and try new things.

My new found confidence in myself had an unexpected knock on effect at work. Perhaps a client facing job is not the natural choice for someone who is so nervous but I managed to do it well from behind a screen, but now I was smashing it. Along with my friends, the support from Catena was something else that helped make this year the best of my life so far.

2016: A Summary

This year I got sick, I got better, I got dumped, I blossomed. I saw more sunsets than ever before, I got promoted, I enjoyed Instagram the way I’d always wanted to (and by that I mean sharing food, shopping and selfies). I shopped a lot.


I discovered (good) tequila and developed a taste for champagne. I saw my best friends, Elaine and Andreas, get married and it was the most beautiful day I’d ever seen.


champagne tequila-2

I travelled to Scotland, London, Amsterdam, Barcelona, Belgrade, Berlin and my hometown in Hertfordshire.


In 2017 I didn’t change as a person, I became myself. I had fallen into someone else for so many years that I’d started to lose who I actually was, but having that ‘comfort zone’ (which is such a nice name for something that can be so damaging) ripped away meant I got to see who I am. And I’m pretty happy with what I found.


Johanna 7 January, 2017 - 3:00 pm

Rhi! Most beautiful blogpost I’ve read in a long time. Here’s for an even better year to come! xx

Jenny 8 January, 2017 - 9:42 am

Wow! 2016 was a very important year for you! So many achievements and learnings xx

Louise 9 January, 2017 - 7:59 pm

Love this post. I also had a break up this year, of an 8 year relationship… and I totally agree with everything you said! It sounds cliche but I really found myself and I have so many more friends. It also means I am free to explore my dreams again and moving to Malta is one of them! I teach EFL so hopefully not too hard to find a job there :)

Scott Lee Holloway 12 January, 2017 - 12:01 pm

Aww I love this post! Your collage with all the adorable animals is my absolute fave hehe! :)

I finally move to Malta this Month! I land on the 30th Jan! Eeek!! Wish my luck hun, your blog has been so helpful in the 2-3 years I have been planning my move.

As we discussed a while ago I’m still contemplating even starting my own blog to document my little Maltese adventures! :D

Glad you’re doing so well now and hope 2017 is your new best year ever! :D

Scott. x

Rhi 13 January, 2017 - 5:02 pm

oh yay finally the time has come! I so hope you are excited :) Keep me posted on everything! You absolutely must start a blog, make sure to send me the link WHEN you do xx

Scott Lee Holloway 13 January, 2017 - 7:32 pm

Super excited! Will definitely keep you posted and will send you the link hehe! :D xx

Natalie Jenkins 23 March, 2017 - 10:21 am

Hi, I found your blog by accident while searching for online UK stores that deliver to Malta.
Then I couldn’t stop reading it!!
I’ve never posted a comment on anyone’s blog before but I wanted to say how much I enjoyed reading yours, particularly your preparations to come and live here. It made me feel quite emotional as it was so similar to the period my husband & I had, when we were packing up & leaving everything behind, including our 20 year old son (we honestly didn’t abandon him or leave him homeless) We’ve had some really up & down times here, but your blog really helped me remember all the planning & the mixture of excitement & fear we both had. Mostly, the reason we did it in the first place :)

Rhi 25 March, 2017 - 9:18 am

Thank you so much for your lovely comment :) so glad you are enjoying the blog. Moving really is so stressful and even once you’re here it takes time but I do my best to always focus on the positives. Are you still in Malta? Enjoying it? X


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